The questions that come up most.

Once there's a real list of vendors waiting for you. We're onboarding wedding vendors first, city by city, because nothing kills a marketplace faster than opening it with eight venues and a single photographer. Drop your email and we'll write you the day your area is ready.

Nothing if you're the one getting married. Free forever. We don't take a cut of what you pay the wedding vendors, either.

Wedding vendors pay $39.99 a month, one plan, no add-ons, no commissions on bookings. The one exception is the optional sell board, where a vendor can list a few products you can buy inline; we keep a flat 10% on those product sales (Stripe processing comes off the rest, paid to the vendor every two weeks).

Yes, when a wedding vendor pins products to their profile (taper candles, signature dress, favorite favor, sample box), you can buy them inline. Tap Buy, Stripe handles the checkout with Apple Pay, Google Pay, Link, PayPal, or a card, and the vendor ships it directly to you. No leaving to a separate site, no creating yet another account. We never see your card.

Wherever there are enough subscribed wedding vendors to make swiping worth the time. We'd rather open one city well than ten cities thinly. If you tell us where you're getting married we'll bump your area up the list.

Because every wedding vendor here pays the same price. The order you see them in is not the order they paid for. There's no “featured” tier, no boosted slots, no review counts being padded by a marketing team. You see the actual listings.

And nobody is going to email you ten times this week.

Yes, wedding vendors aren't waitlisted. Go set up your business. The form is short. You'll be live the moment your subscription clears.

Card, Apple Pay, Google Pay, Link, and PayPal, including Venmo through PayPal. Everything happens inline in the app (no redirect to a hosted checkout), so subscribing takes one tap on a phone that already has Apple Pay set up. Stripe handles the payment; we never see your card number.

We pull each wedding vendor's Google rating + review count onto their card and detail page, so what you see lines up with the review history they've actually built. We don't collect our own reviews and we don't pad anybody's numbers. If a wedding vendor doesn't have a Google business profile yet, their card just shows the photos and the price band.

Photographers, venues, attire, beauty (hair and makeup), and music (DJs and bands). Each gets its own swipe feed, never a mixed pile. We're adding categories as we onboard the vendors for them: florists, caterers, cake, and stationery are on the roadmap. If there's another category you wish was here, write us, it goes on the list.

Sort of. to.be is a Progressive Web App, which means once you sign in we'll show you a one-tap install card that drops an icon on your home screen and opens full-screen, exactly like a regular app, no App Store, no 60MB download, no permission gauntlet.

On iOS, if you skip the card you can still install it the manual way: open the site in Safari, tap Share, then Add to Home Screen.

No. Push notifications are off by default. The first time a wedding vendor messages you we'll offer to turn them on so you can hear about replies the same day instead of next week, but it's always an explicit choice, and you can turn them back off from your settings whenever. We never push marketing, only direct replies and the occasional new-match heads-up.

Yes, that's what circles are for. From the Circles tab, send an invite link to whoever you want pulled in. Once they accept, you both see each other's saved wedding vendors, so you're scrolling the same shortlist instead of texting screenshots. You can keep more than one circle, one for your partner, one for the moms, one for your planner, and switch between their views on your saves page. A “saved by everyone” filter tells you which wedding vendors the whole circle agrees on. Remove anyone, anytime, and their view disappears with them.

Yes, the saves page has two tools for exactly that. Set your wedding budget and to.be adds up the price ranges of every wedding vendor you've saved, so you can see where you'd land before you've booked anything. And when it's down to a few real contenders, pick two to four and open the compare view: their photos, category, location, and price ranges in one row, with a message button on each. It settles the photographer-versus-photographer debate without flipping between cards.

Your Mood board has a share link. Mood board is its own tab in the bottom nav, pin photos from any vendor's gallery, then send the link to anyone. They can open it in a browser, no sign-up, no account needed, and see the photos you've pinned along with which wedding vendor each one is from. The link is a long random token; you can rotate or revoke it from your Mood board settings if it gets out into the world.

We collect what we need to make the product work, your email, the basics about your wedding so we can filter. We don't sell it. We don't use it for ads. The wedding vendors don't see your contact info until you choose to message them, and even then they only see what your reply-to address says.