Terms
Terms of service
Updated May 15, 2026
What this is
to.be is a marketplace where wedding vendors list their work and couples reach out to them. We're not the vendor; we don't do the wedding photography, the catering, or the flowers. We connect you to the people who do, and the agreement for the actual work happens between you and that vendor.
Using to.be as a couple
- It's free, and we don't take a cut of what you pay vendors.
- Information vendors post — pricing, package details, lead times — is their representation, not ours. Confirm everything in writing with the vendor before you book.
- When you message a vendor, they get your display name, wedding date, city, and your message. They can reply by email.
- Don't abuse the messaging — no spam, no harassment, no pretending to be someone else.
Using to.be as a vendor
- The plan is $39.99 a month, flat. Cancel anytime through your dashboard. After cancellation your listing leaves the deck within the day; your account and historical data stay so you can come back later.
- Don't lie. Pricing, photos, what's included — these should be accurate. If we get complaints about a listing that materially misrepresents the work, we'll ask you to fix it; if you don't, we'll remove the listing.
- Photos must be yours to publish (your own work, work you've been licensed to use, or work in the public domain).
- Respond to couples promptly. We don't enforce a deadline, but couples remember.
- You're responsible for the contracts, deposits, taxes, and delivery of the work itself. We're not in that chain.
Refunds and disputes
Subscription fees are non-refundable mid-month — when you cancel, you keep your remaining time on the plan and then it stops. Any dispute about the actual wedding work (a missing delivery, a quality issue) is between you and the vendor, not us. We can't arbitrate it.
When we might remove an account
We'll close an account for:
- Repeated fake or misleading listings
- Harassment of other users
- Fraud or chargeback abuse
- Using to.be to advertise things other than wedding services
We'll usually email first if there's a fix; emergency cases (real fraud) get an immediate removal.
No warranty
to.be is provided as-is. We try hard to keep it up and working, but we don't guarantee perfect uptime, perfect search ranking, or that any given vendor on the platform is a good fit. Use your judgment, especially before paying a vendor.
Limits
We're not liable for indirect or consequential damages (lost weddings, lost deposits, ruined cakes) that result from your use of the platform. Our maximum liability for any claim is the amount you've paid us in the prior 12 months, which for couples is $0.
Changes
If we make a material change to these terms we'll email accountholders before it takes effect. Small wording changes get a new date at the top.